Shit, I should read this for myself!

I think the thing that I tell myself about xxxx is that he must look me in the eye.  When he does not he is playing, running circles around us, because he can and he must.  He can because he is smart.  But he also must because he adapts that behavior to cope with social situations.

I can relate.

I believe part of the behavior was adapted because of our turmoil in front of him.  That we have taken care of.

I believe the other part comes from his genetic make-up, because of sensory overload.  It is important to understand the selfishness is not a conscious decision.  Handling the sensory overload requires a self-centered-ness in order to focus.  You want unselfish behavior then you get lack of focus and weird behavior.  Give him tasks where he can focus and expend energy then you have a normal kid who is a bit self-centered.

Karma is awesome.  Karma means connection not as it is often misused. Like in physics: every action has a reaction.  

I don't see the stress in believing in Karma.  As long as every action has good intention then you should not be stressed or disappointed or exhausted. The consequent actions are what they are and the only thing you can know is the intention.

I do what you describe to try to understand intention.  I am almost at the point of thinking that intention is all that matters.

In the actions of others that I mention I see ugly intention. Or at best ignorance. So I judge them by that.

One thing for sure is that those with ugly intentions usually get it served back to them.  So, I don't give it much thought except if it is ugly or dumb, I don't have time for it or them.

Again, people only see two inches from their nose... 

 

That is why I don't judge you and your actions.  How could I know? 

 

There is a different way to approach all this.  That is where we differ.

Acceptance is different from trying to change someone or something.  To say 'what something or someone is' is different than to say 'what that something or someone should be'.

Sensing more is a gift.  It is scary -- schizophrenics are plagued by the fact that they cannot process all that they sense.  But I think it should be nurtured especially if he is smart enough to keep up with the stimulus.

To do this he also needs discipline that is in his own best interest.   The onslaught of stimulus needs a focus to be interpreted.